Confidence Killers #8: Self-criticism (video)

  In this video series on Confidence Killers, I describe the many ways in which we cripple our self-confidence. Self-criticism is one of the most negative things we can do. In fact, when we consistently put down or berate ourselves for making poor choices and decisions, it is really a form of self-abuse. One of…

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Confidence Killers #5 ~ Language (video)

In this video series, I am describing some of the ways our confidence can be affected by confidence killers. Today’s topic is language. How we use our language has a dramatic impact on others (in the way we speak to people) and ourselves (the inner talk that goes on in our brains) Neuro-science, Positive Psychology…

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Confidence Killers #4 ~ Exaggeration (video)

To understand confidence better we need to know the misunderstandings that are killing it. So I created this “Confidence Killers” series to highlight some of these myths. In this video, I discuss exaggeration. How can you be yourself if you are exaggerating anything – like how much money you have, how many dates you have…

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Confidence Killers ~ #3 Shoulds (video)

You may remember the saying from childhood, “Sticks and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me.” It was well-intentioned as a way to help us get past mean or bad things someone had said. But the truth is that even though words may not physically hurt us, they can still have…

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Confidence Killers ~ #2 Perfection (video)

Here’s the next video in the Confidence Killers series. Today I am talking about the need we have to get it right, to be right or to be perceived as right. Yep, you’ve guessed it. Today’s confidence killer is perfection. What makes it amusing is that I right before I shot this video, I had…

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