What to do when you feel lost.

“The last few months I have been in a fog and now I am lost.” Ever had a sense of not knowing where you are or what direction you are heading in? And yet a desire that you should move? The above quote was the opening line from a new coaching client and rings bells…

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Getting back to ‘normal’

I am sat in the office at the top of the Shambles in York. It’s a beautiful Spring day and the windows are open. In previous years the street would be bustling with people, especially as some are on half term holidays, and yet, due to the current situation, it’s quiet. In conversations over the…

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What’s the point of getting help?

I have a rule as a coach that if I bump into a client whilst out, it is up to them how they introduce me. Some are happy to say ‘this is my coach, Jules’ and others prefer to say ‘this is Jules’ and if required to explain how we know each other, they usually…

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What to do when you have no map.

A client of mine walked the whole the Camino de Santiago It has been a Christina pilgrimage for 100’s of years. It has become even more popular over the last few decades I believe in part due to the popularity of people wanting to ‘find themselves’, movies like The Way and the BBC Pilgrimage series…

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Living with a liar.

When you think about your ideal relationship would it be with someone who lies? Tells false hoods? Flaunts the truth? Speaks only in stories? Someone who never gives straight answers to a question? I would be surprised if that were your ideal. And yet how many of us have been or are in relationships like…

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What IS possible right now?

The positive thinking movement gained a great deal of momentum in the 50’s due to the release of Norman Vincent Peale’s book The Power of Positive Thinking; A Practical Guide to Mastering the Problems of Everyday Living. Whilst self help information and books have been around in various guises over millennia, (the Bible being cited…

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Let’s talk about STRESS baby!

“Change is the only constant in life. One’s ability to adapt to those changes will determine your success in life.” – Benjamin Franklin. It’s true, but the thinking mind doesn’t like this. It likes certainty. It wants things to stay the same. But they don’t. Sometimes these changes happen because we choose them, like resigning…

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Do you like to play hide and seek?

Have you ever had one of those days where being under the duvet seems like the best place to be? Not because you are poorly. Not because you are genuinely tired. But because you want to hide. You want to hide from ‘stuff’, as it seems too difficult or hard to face. So rather than…

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It’s Time to Get Ugly!

You may know that I like dancing. In fact, I LOVE dancing. Not the learn a routine, classically trained dancing. Just me and the music, cutting loose and throwing some shapes. It’s like my body craves to move that way and apparently it has done even before I could walk. I will often be dancing…

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Is being a control freak, freakish?

I want to share my thoughts on control. It seeps into many coaching conversations as clients think that ‘having more’  or ‘not losing’ it is a key to having more confidence. When I think the opposite is true. And I say ‘think’ because, control is something that I still have an intimate relationship with, and…

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