Have the confidence to make mistakes

Do you stop yourself from doing things for fear you might make a mistake? That you might get it wrong or look a fool? I have spent too much of my life being worried about that. But now… Last week you may have noticed was a big week. I launch the new Evolve Confidence Community…

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This is who I am.

I’ve been thinking about the stories we tell ourselves, about ourselves. The ‘I am a…’ stories or ‘I have a…’ Or ‘because of this happening I can/can’t/will/won’t’ Those stories. Or how we often think about them, our identity. This is who I am. Calling them ‘stories’ makes them sound innocuous, which in truth they are.…

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Can it get any worse?

When just getting from one day to next seems like a mammoth task, what can you do? What can you do when life gets tough? For many people that’s how it seems at the moment. Families, school, work, politics, health, the day to day. It can seem big. Now whilst I do not have children…

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What’s the point of getting help?

I have a rule as a coach that if I bump into a client whilst out, it is up to them how they introduce me. Some are happy to say ‘this is my coach, Jules’ and others prefer to say ‘this is Jules’ and if required to explain how we know each other, they usually…

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What to do when you have no map.

A client of mine walked the whole the Camino de Santiago It has been a Christina pilgrimage for 100’s of years. It has become even more popular over the last few decades I believe in part due to the popularity of people wanting to ‘find themselves’, movies like The Way and the BBC Pilgrimage series…

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Living with a liar.

When you think about your ideal relationship would it be with someone who lies? Tells false hoods? Flaunts the truth? Speaks only in stories? Someone who never gives straight answers to a question? I would be surprised if that were your ideal. And yet how many of us have been or are in relationships like…

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What IS possible right now?

The positive thinking movement gained a great deal of momentum in the 50’s due to the release of Norman Vincent Peale’s book The Power of Positive Thinking; A Practical Guide to Mastering the Problems of Everyday Living. Whilst self help information and books have been around in various guises over millennia, (the Bible being cited…

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Do you like to play hide and seek?

Have you ever had one of those days where being under the duvet seems like the best place to be? Not because you are poorly. Not because you are genuinely tired. But because you want to hide. You want to hide from ‘stuff’, as it seems too difficult or hard to face. So rather than…

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Is being a control freak, freakish?

I want to share my thoughts on control. It seeps into many coaching conversations as clients think that ‘having more’  or ‘not losing’ it is a key to having more confidence. When I think the opposite is true. And I say ‘think’ because, control is something that I still have an intimate relationship with, and…

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This is me.

It wasn’t long after qualifying as a coach that I specialised on the topic of confidence. Many clients in my newly established business wanted more of it, to build it or have it not disappear at key moments in their lives. It didn’t matter if they were focused on their personal or professional life, they…

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