Getting back to ‘normal’

I am sat in the office at the top of the Shambles in York. It’s a beautiful Spring day and the windows are open. In previous years the street would be bustling with people, especially as some are on half term holidays, and yet, due to the current situation, it’s quiet. In conversations over the…

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What to do when you have no map.

A client of mine walked the whole the Camino de Santiago It has been a Christina pilgrimage for 100’s of years. It has become even more popular over the last few decades I believe in part due to the popularity of people wanting to ‘find themselves’, movies like The Way and the BBC Pilgrimage series…

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Living with a liar.

When you think about your ideal relationship would it be with someone who lies? Tells false hoods? Flaunts the truth? Speaks only in stories? Someone who never gives straight answers to a question? I would be surprised if that were your ideal. And yet how many of us have been or are in relationships like…

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What IS possible right now?

The positive thinking movement gained a great deal of momentum in the 50’s due to the release of Norman Vincent Peale’s book The Power of Positive Thinking; A Practical Guide to Mastering the Problems of Everyday Living. Whilst self help information and books have been around in various guises over millennia, (the Bible being cited…

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Let’s talk about STRESS baby!

“Change is the only constant in life. One’s ability to adapt to those changes will determine your success in life.” – Benjamin Franklin. It’s true, but the thinking mind doesn’t like this. It likes certainty. It wants things to stay the same. But they don’t. Sometimes these changes happen because we choose them, like resigning…

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Do you like to play hide and seek?

Have you ever had one of those days where being under the duvet seems like the best place to be? Not because you are poorly. Not because you are genuinely tired. But because you want to hide. You want to hide from ‘stuff’, as it seems too difficult or hard to face. So rather than…

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Is being a control freak, freakish?

I want to share my thoughts on control. It seeps into many coaching conversations as clients think that ‘having more’  or ‘not losing’ it is a key to having more confidence. When I think the opposite is true. And I say ‘think’ because, control is something that I still have an intimate relationship with, and…

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How many times during the day to you hit pause?

Wherever you are right now, pause. In fact stop. It’s not forever. Just for now. . . . . . How many times do you do that during the year? It seems as if the years are going by faster, and maybe they are. But when we are only focused on the future, tomorrow, or…

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Are you choosing convenience over consciousness?

A deep question to start the blog with. It came from a discussion I was having with a friend. We were talking about the convenience of the life we have access to; food, TV, internet, social media etc. And how, if we were not thinking consciously, we could be swept along with the convenience that…

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Have you ever doubted your self doubt?

I wonder what would happen if you did? Doubt and self doubt are frequently topics of conversation on, well I’d say every course that I run; presentations, running effective meetings, guiding your career, the imposter syndrome, leading with belief and of course all the confidence courses. And when doubt does raise it’s head, I ask…

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