Getting back to ‘normal’

I am sat in the office at the top of the Shambles in York. It’s a beautiful Spring day and the windows are open. In previous years the street would be bustling with people, especially as some are on half term holidays, and yet, due to the current situation, it’s quiet. In conversations over the…

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What’s the point of getting help?

I have a rule as a coach that if I bump into a client whilst out, it is up to them how they introduce me. Some are happy to say ‘this is my coach, Jules’ and others prefer to say ‘this is Jules’ and if required to explain how we know each other, they usually…

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What IS possible right now?

The positive thinking movement gained a great deal of momentum in the 50’s due to the release of Norman Vincent Peale’s book The Power of Positive Thinking; A Practical Guide to Mastering the Problems of Everyday Living. Whilst self help information and books have been around in various guises over millennia, (the Bible being cited…

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Let’s talk about STRESS baby!

“Change is the only constant in life. One’s ability to adapt to those changes will determine your success in life.” – Benjamin Franklin. It’s true, but the thinking mind doesn’t like this. It likes certainty. It wants things to stay the same. But they don’t. Sometimes these changes happen because we choose them, like resigning…

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Is being a control freak, freakish?

I want to share my thoughts on control. It seeps into many coaching conversations as clients think that ‘having more’  or ‘not losing’ it is a key to having more confidence. When I think the opposite is true. And I say ‘think’ because, control is something that I still have an intimate relationship with, and…

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This is me.

It wasn’t long after qualifying as a coach that I specialised on the topic of confidence. Many clients in my newly established business wanted more of it, to build it or have it not disappear at key moments in their lives. It didn’t matter if they were focused on their personal or professional life, they…

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What if self care – all round self care – was the norm?

I was sat the other Saturday talking about self care with Adam Ant. OK, I was at a fancy dress party and said Adam Ant was a 16 year old girl!  (FYI I was dressed as Tom Cruise circa 1986 Top Gun) It was not the situation where I expected to be discussing this topic!…

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Coaching? Mentoring? Or therapy?

“How do you know whether coaching is the right thing for you?  And how do you find the right coach for you?” Two really great questions posed after a recent keynote. So I thought I would offer my thoughts on the subject today in the blog. Ways for you to know what you need next…

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Are you ready for better relationships…with everyone?

Who’d have thought cleaning out old photos could lead to profound insights! I came across photos of my graduation from 1993 (!) and shared them with an ex-boyfriend (now friend). He commented on how lovely I looked. And that I was such a funny, positive and confident young woman. Shame I didn’t think that about…

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What if there IS magic in patience?

Impatience is not a virtue. Nor is it helpful. In my experience personally and with witnessing its impact on clients, I can see how truly destructive, disempowering and controlling impatience can be. I have just come off a call with a client whose impatient thinking patterns cause her to give up on the goals and…

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